This sounds like a completely sensible plan to me. One unmentioned perk is that it would result in a more equitable heterosexual dating scene (not that Twisty gives a shit, of course, but I do). Women would feel more free to approach men for sex, since this would no longer be read as "I am a worthless slut".* Men would feel less entitled (and probably less pressured) to approach women for sex. Happy rainbow kittens would ensue.
*This is not meant as a slur on all the worthy and ethical sluts out there. I'm never sure whether to give up on words like "slut" or not. The question probably deserves a post of its own.
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I'm never sure whether to give up on words like "slut" or not. The question probably deserves a post of its own.
Yes, it probably does and I wish you would write it because I enjoy reading your posts.
When I read the following in Twisty's post, I have to admit that I always considered that to be the default, even though I learned that real life operates differently:
...what if lack of consent were the default? What if all prospective objects of dudely predation — by whom I mean all women — are a priori considered to have said “no”?
I would prefer that [h]appy rainbow kittens would ensue whenever I asked a man for sex. far better than worrying that that the object of my desire will consider me (a) a nymphomaniac or (b) too undesirable to be approached by other male default predators.
IMO, Twisty's view of sex tends to be like the sideview mirror on a car. You consult it to get the radical feminist perspective, but if you tried to rely on that sideview mirror to navigate your car, the result could be disastrous for you and those around you.
Thanks for your kind words, J.B.
IMO, Twisty's view of sex tends to be like the sideview mirror on a car.
For the most part, I agree with you. (For instance, I don't want to give up sex with men, and I don't think that all male sexual desire is cruel and objectifying.) But this post really resonated with me. I'm sure this was partly because I really think that 'no consent' should be the default, and am bothered when not everyone is on the same page. I suspect it was also partly because I pictured how an overly pushy man might react to more extreme versions of Twisty's proposal. If consent were really impossible (rather than 'no consent' being the default), then sex would be as scary for men as it is for women. I really only want the less extreme version of the proposal, but the more extreme one seems like a useful thought experiment for men who suffer from a certain lack of empathy with women.
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